Marriage for New Muslims Without a Family Wali
By the Florence editorial team · 2 November 2026 · 1 min read
Many new Muslims want to marry in a halal way but have no Muslim family to guide them. You are not alone, and there are good ways to do this properly.
You do not have to do this alone
Many mosques and community leaders support reverts through the marriage process. Speaking to your local imam or a trusted, knowledgeable Muslim you respect is a good first step.
Why oversight still matters
Having someone experienced look over a potential match protects you from mistakes, helps you ask the right questions, and brings an extra layer of accountability to the process.
How Florence supports new Muslims
When you create your profile, you can request a Mentor instead of a family wali. A Mentor is a trusted person assigned by the Florence admin team who has the same oversight of your matches and conversations that a wali would.
Your profile is still reviewed like every other, and contact details stay hidden until a match is mutual, and photos are hidden by default.
Questions to talk through
Be open about your journey with Islam, your family situation, and what you need from a spouse in terms of support and learning. A good match will meet you with patience and understanding.
First steps for a new Muslim looking to marry
- Speak to your local imam or a trusted, knowledgeable Muslim about who can act as your wali.
- Write down what you need from a spouse in support, learning and family life.
- Be open about your journey and family situation from the start.
- Choose a platform or person that offers oversight, such as a Mentor.
- Take your time. A good match will be patient.
Sources
- Quran 24:32 (marry off the unmarried among you)
- Sunan Abi Dawud 2085 and Jami at-Tirmidhi 1101 (the wali; scholars differ on circumstances)
Hadith numbers follow the standard collections and can differ slightly between editions.
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